Post #1 Making friends with anger

For so many years I didn't know what to do with the anger that came to visit.   I thought I had to fight-to defend myself.  OR I thought I had to run from it because it was a monster. OR (and this has been my favorite), I thought I had to stuff it and pretend it was not there only to be appalled when it came spewing out like a volcano.  I even stuffed other people's anger and pretended it was mine.
These three responses, otherwise known as FIGHT, FLIGHT, and FREEZE, don't help me.  I thought to myself:  "Self, there has got to be something else!"
First of all, I realized that anger and an angry response are 2 different things.  We can train ourselves to feel the anger and still make rational choices.
If anger is not an enemy, or a monster, or something that makes me sick to my stomach, what is it?
Anger is a friend.  It tells me when something needs to change.
I don't have to FIGHT, FLIGHT, or FREEZE, I can FLOAT.
Floating will be explained in a later blog.  One thing I will tell you is that it's cool.