FLOAT Helps With Addiction Behavior Patterns

    

       I have come to realize how the brain’s neural pathways are affected by being stuck on any habitual behaviors, as with addiction patterns, regardless of what the addiction may be. The brain circuitry shapes itself to route signals as programmed, whether unconsciously or consciously. I suppose it acts somewhat like a muscle that is either utilized routinely or it’s bypassed. For example, a farmer probably doesn’t consciously exercise his legs; he just uses them to climb ladders or up on tractors, to walk through the furrows, to care for his animals, and all the demands of farm work. Because he needs them, he uses them. But if the farmer goes on vacation, or retires, he needn’t use his legs in the same way, so they don’t follow the working routine. Likewise the brain transmits its signals along circuits that are most often used. When some non-customary requirement is given to the brain, it must perform such function using a different route through the brain’s geography. It’s like driving your car to an address unknown or rarely visited; a map may need to be followed, whereas to a familiar location the route requires no more than just turning the steering wheel without even thinking or recollecting. {For readers motivated to learn more about basic brain functions, visit this link from National Institute of Mental Health: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/educational-resources/brain-basics/brain-basics.shuuuu tml }

       I often detect that the mindless routines I do aren’t taking me where I want to go, and that I need to choose a different way of acting or thinking. This takes me longer than an automatic reaction. Let me give an example. When my wife asks me to do something, like come and set up a breathing treatment when she is having an asthma attack (formerly a common occurrence), I could do it quickly and routinely after the first couple of times. However, I often would do that out of a sense of duty more than with empathy and caring about her needs and feelings, the whole time wanting to return quickly to whatever I was doing when the request to help came. Now, suppose that I realize that I want to show her some attention because I regard her as one I want to serve with caring, it takes some additional effort and thinking to choose to take more time and to truly see her as a person deserving of greater love and help than my mindless way afforded.

       Here is where use of the FLOAT method can help. Let me go through the steps.

11.   Stop, leave a space …
Call from wife to help, respond automatically without empathy but willing to help right away. Then something whispers (or she vocalizes) that I could do something more helpful that would contribute to her healing and wellbeing more significantly than a mere oxygen treatment. I may choose to act with empathy, or to feel annoyed that more effort would be desirable yet perhaps inconvenient. Stop, leave a space …

22.   Take a deep cleansing breath
(to get out of my head and connected to values, to what I truly want to attract).

33.   Excuse me, I’ll be back …
Set up the breathing treatment, then, “Excuse me, I’ll be back …”

44.   Take 3 steps back …
Step back or out of the presence of my wife. This also moves the emotion outside myself, susceptible to being addressed.

55.   Hello (call the emotion by name), what do you have to tell me?
Hello Inconvenience, what do you have to tell me? (I could call the idea or emotion different things, like Opportunity-to-strengthen-my-relationship or What-I-was-doing-sure-seems-more-important-to-complete.) Take time to listen to the message these ideas or feelings bring, for they are godsends, helpful to me to choose to attract what I really want or don’t; they are gifts to finding clarity. (I often do this awareness and communication part in private so as to be able to really listen and learn, and to allow my genuine evaluation of the messages to occur. I have some pretty candid conversation, often vocal, with the messages they bring, and some of my comments could be offensive or triggering to my wife.)

66.   Consider choices …
Pull out my choice cards, whether actual or imaginary.

77.   Make a choice …
Having allowed myself to connect with what I am trying to create or attract, that is probably different than my habitual, mindless response, I choose one of the options that occur to me. I don’t rush through this, for I am giving myself permission to choose a higher pathway, for I don’t want the usual outcomes (the standard neural pathways) that haven’t brought me happier results.

88.   Return and report (discuss) …
I return to my wife and ask her if she wants to know what my choice was. Usually she is interested, so I explain it. Otherwise, I just carry it out. I usually congratulate myself and celebrate a little for having consciously chosen something other than my impulse to be annoyed with the inconvenient interruption, and healing is more likely to be helped to happen. The brain adapts in its own miraculous, neuroplastic way. (I may sweetly add that my wife will also thank or celebrate my choice in pleasant ways, better outcomes, payoff. It’s best if I don’t count on such payoffs, but’s it’s okay to enjoy them if they ensue.)

       

       Hence, the motto, Train the brain to train the body to train the brain, is proven true to reality. A muscle is exercised in a meaningful way.

Contributed by Richard, sometimes known as Pops or Papa

Post #3 Replacement
Working on my habits.  I declared  at the Limitless Health Intensive that I really am a morning person.  I discovered this after 63 years of living.  Years ago, I gave up soda pop.   So, after I've declared it, how do I go about it?
My law of replacement says that in order to give up something, I should quickly replace it with something of greater value.  For example:  In order to give up soda pop, I replaced it with black cherry juice.  In order to give up ice cream, I replaced it with fruit smoothies.
So, how does this apply to getting up early?  Well, I replace the sleep I would get in the morning with sleep earlier in the evening.

The cool thing about this concept is that I am replacing the phony with the real.  (Real food for phony food)  So, if I have a craving for something, I can direct my mind to something I'd really rather have instead.   This is the same thing that we do with our thoughts.   When we give up our limiting beliefs and replace them with those that serve us better, we are taking out  the phony and putting in the real. 

Post #2 BRAIN CHANGE
In the process of Recovery, we learned from Dr. Donald Hilton that the brain actually changes when someone is addicted.  So my 2 BIG questions came up:

1.  If the brain of the person recovering from addiction has been changed, the spouse's brain has also been changed.  So that means, me, Catharine.  I don't really like the thought of a brain change!!
2.  If the brain is changed, what is the process by which it is changed back--actually changed to even better than it was before?

OK, so this has become our quest.  What is the process by which we can create new neural pathways and strengthen them?
We've come up with some pretty exciting answers and processes.  Are you interested?  Of course you are!  How would you answer the two questions above?  (more to come)

Post #1 Making friends with anger

For so many years I didn't know what to do with the anger that came to visit.   I thought I had to fight-to defend myself.  OR I thought I had to run from it because it was a monster. OR (and this has been my favorite), I thought I had to stuff it and pretend it was not there only to be appalled when it came spewing out like a volcano.  I even stuffed other people's anger and pretended it was mine.
These three responses, otherwise known as FIGHT, FLIGHT, and FREEZE, don't help me.  I thought to myself:  "Self, there has got to be something else!"
First of all, I realized that anger and an angry response are 2 different things.  We can train ourselves to feel the anger and still make rational choices.
If anger is not an enemy, or a monster, or something that makes me sick to my stomach, what is it?
Anger is a friend.  It tells me when something needs to change.
I don't have to FIGHT, FLIGHT, or FREEZE, I can FLOAT.
Floating will be explained in a later blog.  One thing I will tell you is that it's cool.